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  • Jan Mcdonald

Is daydreaming holding you back?

Maladaptive daydreaming is a condition in which an individual excessively daydreams, often to the point that it interferes with their daily life and responsibilities. The condition is not currently recognized by the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Still, some mental health professionals are beginning to acknowledge it as a distinct condition that can be treated with therapy or other forms of support.

The daydreams can be very vivid, detailed, and immersive, and can last for hours at a time. People may be using maladaptive daydreaming to remove themselves from reality, cope with stress or anxiety, or to fulfil unmet needs. Individuals may be reluctant or unable to let go of their daydreams as they can bring a sense of happiness and seemingly positive escapism to their current lives.

While daydreaming is a normal and often healthy part of the human experience, maladaptive daydreaming can interfere with an individual's ability to function in everyday life. People with maladaptive daydreaming may find it difficult to concentrate on tasks or maintain relationships with others and may feel isolated or disconnected from the world around them.

Maladaptive daydreaming can be problematic for several reasons. Here are some of the ways that excessive daydreaming can be harmful:

1. Impaired daily functioning: When daydreaming becomes excessive and interferes with daily responsibilities such as work, school, or personal relationships, it can have a negative impact on a person's quality of life.

2. Isolation: Maladaptive daydreaming can lead to social isolation, as the individual may prefer to spend time daydreaming rather than engaging with others.

3. Escapism: While daydreaming can be a healthy coping mechanism in moderation, excessive daydreaming can lead to avoidance of real-life problems and responsibilities, which can exacerbate anxiety, depression, or other mental health conditions.

4. Sleep problems: Excessive daydreaming can interfere with sleep and lead to insomnia, which can have negative impacts on mental and physical health.

5. Self-esteem and identity issues: People who engage in maladaptive daydreaming may become overly attached to their daydreams, leading to difficulties with self-esteem and confusion about their sense of identity.

As a person-centred therapist working with someone who experiences maladaptive daydreaming, I would begin by establishing a strong therapeutic relationship with the client, based on empathy and non-judgmental acceptance. I would work to create a safe and supportive space in which my client could explore the underlying causes of their excessive daydreaming. I would help individuals develop a deeper understanding of their thoughts and feelings as to why this daydreaming is part of their life.

As a therapist, I use active listening, reflection, and empathic responses to help the client feel heard and validated and encourage them to express themselves openly and honestly. I may also help the client identify and challenge any negative or self-critical thoughts that may be contributing to their daydreaming, and work with them to develop more adaptive coping strategies.


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